Would You Deepen Your Conversation if it Gets Sticky at a Social?

Having just had a very socialable time, at Christmas and New Year get togethers and parties, I wish I had re-connected with Oriah Mountain Dreamer’s prose beforehand. There are several paragraphs that really resonate with me, and I would like to say a bit about them and why. For those who don’t know me, this may help. The full prose is in the previous post. Let me know if you would inquire, of your temporary companion, about any of these!

“It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.”

Well, if they are passionate about their work, it does interest me. Otherwise, I’m happy to skip paid work as a topic.

“I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.”

Yum, I really love to know this stuff, Continue reading

By Oriah Mountain Dreamer

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.

I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are, I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool, and for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own. If you can dance with wildness, and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes, without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself. If you can bare the accusations of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore be trustworthy. I want to know if you can see beauty even if it is not pretty every day and if you can source yourself from god’s presence. I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon — YES.

It doesn’t interest me where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came here. I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied, I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

Oriah Mountain Dreamer – Indian Elder.

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Giraffe’s have very large hearts, can get a good view of things, and their saliva can disolve thorns. So Marshall Rosenberg chose them to represent the paradigm shift to speak from the heart, that he taught so many people.

 

Empathy Day – 21st March

Empathy is the key to relationships in my opinion: resolving conflicts, feeling more deeply connected, supported and safe. One of the most common requests that I hear is “how do I get good at empathy”!

Empathy is a way to step into someone else’s shoes, without trying to solve anything. Empathy helps us to unravel emotions too, so things become clearer, calmer and we get more space. Mmmm, delicious! Here is the opportunity to spend a day on empathy skills: further developing them and be surrounded by empathy.newport empathy day 21.3.15 There will be limited places and it is likely to be popular, so grab your place early!

Alternative Valentine’s Event – Mid Feb

Mid February 2015: One-day workshops for people who find Valentines Day an unwelcome reminder of their aloneness.

I plan to provide this service every year, so people have an alternative. Also, due to the amount of interest from people wanting more loving in their life, I am thinking of doing a similar workshop several times a year.Valentines

If you have any difficulties with the fee asked for, please get in touch to find out options for part £’s and part energy swap.